A grief burst can be described as a time when something occurs that causes a wave of grief to wash over a person when it is least expected. Grief bursts may take place any time after the death of a loved one, and bring an onslaught of emotions such as sadness, surprise, peace or resentment.
Recently, I have been participating in a five week book study group on Zoom with my church. It’s called Life Pursuits and it focuses on how memories, milestones and transitions in life effect one’s spirituality. When I turned to the first page of Chapter 10 in the workbook, it began with a quote from scripture:
I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race,
I have kept the faith.
2 Timothy 4:7
A talented friend of the family made the video of Lisa’s life that would be played during the visitation and funeral for Lisa and then serve as a keepsake for the family. It was set to music. One of the songs on that video included the song “Heaven’s Now My Home” by libbyallensongs. I was so surprised to discover that the chorus of the song is taken from that scripture!
What a grief burst I experienced when I made the connection between song and scripture. I felt all of the above-mentioned emotions. And of course, I went back and listened to the song on Youtube because it was such a strong descriptor of Lisa. I could imagine Lisa singing that song to me and to my family.
While I don’t look for or welcome grief bursts, they do have a way on keeping a connection with the loved one. And that is something that I always welcome.